What Parts of You Are You Outsourcing?
Reclaiming self-trust in a world that rewards performance over presence.
We live in a world where applause and "likes" or comments are addictive, titles are currency and worth often feels tied to performance. Many of us women find ourselves outsourcing parts of who we are - sometimes subtly, often habitually.
You can tell when it's happening. You over-edit your opinions. You shape-shift to match expectations in rooms that prefer polish over presence. You feel the tug of decisions that don't quite sit right in your body. Somewhere between excelling and appeasing, your own voice starts to fade into the background.
Outsourcing can look like relying on a job title to feel successful, measuring your value through someone else's approval or accepting roles and relationships that no longer reflect your truth because they once did or because others expect you to.
The grace to trust yourself is built. Slowly. Intentionally. Through choices that honour your voice and your values, especially when no one's clapping.
As Brené Brown puts it: "Authenticity is the daily practice of letting go of who we think we're supposed to be and embracing who we are."
This is about deep alignment. The kind that shows up in your tone, your boundaries, your joy. The kind that doesn't wait for a title, a nod, or a green light.
Ask yourself:
– Where do I override my instincts to maintain a role or identity?
– What decisions would I make if I trusted myself completely?
– Which parts of me are ready to come back home?